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How to potty train a child?

In general, it is around the start of the new school year in kindergarten that parents begin to ask themselves questions about the cleanliness of their child. It is a natural process in its development. He may potty train himself, but you can also help him become potty trained. To do this, you must first give him the desire. Concretely, how to make a child clean?

How do you know if a child is ready to potty train?


Different signs can tell you if your child is already potty-ready.

  • If he already has a potty, he already knows how to go there on his own and sit there on his own.


  • He can already undress without you helping him.


  • He warns you when his diaper is full or tells you directly if he has peed or pooped. In the same vein, he can use his fingers to show you his potty or the toilet. Better still, he manages to hold himself back for a moment to signal to you an urgent desire.


  • He is able to stay two hours straight without wetting his diaper.


  • He knows how to tell you his needs clearly. For example, he asks you for water or his comforter.


  • He is already able to understand some simple instructions, such as giving something to someone in the family.


  • The subject of cleanliness makes him particularly curious. If so, he may follow you when you go to the bathroom. He can also put his stuffed animal on his potty or he is interested in stories, films or cartoons that address the subject, etc.


What are the prerequisites for the acquisition of cleanliness?


In addition to the signs above, there are some prerequisites to follow before potty training your child.

  • He must already know how to control his bladder and his sphincters. Usually, it's from the age of two that your cherub begins to recognize this feeling when his organs are full. After that, he gradually learns to determine when he will urinate or defecate. As it goes, it will detect this moment with more precision.


  • Your little one should already be able to walk, and have been for a few months. By "knowing how to walk", you must understand that it is both autonomous and voluntary walking. So you should not take into account his hesitant first steps.


  • To acquire cleanliness, your little one must also already know how to stand up straight, sit down, stay stable, get up without help from anyone when he sits down, go up and down the stairs on his own.


  • In this toilet training, parents obviously play an important role. You're not going to literally teach it to him, but more importantly, you need to support and coach him through the process. You need to help him be ready both physically and psychologically. Thus, most of the learning will be provided by your toddler. Take care to show him that you trust him completely.

What are the stages of potty training?


When you feel your child is ready to potty train, there are steps you need to take so that he can master potty training, and most importantly, not regress.

Pick the right time


Between the ages of 18 and 24 months, children are in a so-called “opposition” period. If yours is still in this period, prefer to wait for it to go through this phase of its development before cleaning it. In this period, children assert themselves with the "no", and thus, in principle, he can refuse to do without diapers.

It should be noted that for your child to learn to clean, he must first feel the desire. He should not see this as a push on your part. Forcing it will not bring more results, worse, it may even delay the process. You should not impose fixed hours for him to do his needs. This doesn't prevent you from suggesting that he pee before going to bed, for example. If he tells you he doesn't want to, there's no need to insist.

Show him your support


If he shows you his desire to become clean, motivate him in this process. On a psychological level, you can prepare him by reading him stories on the subject from time to time. Just be careful that it doesn't become a fixation. Also, invite him to let you know when he has to pee or poop by encouraging him to verbalize his desires.

At the same time, you can explain to him that it is unpleasant to have dirty diapers and that what you ask of him is only in his interest.

Potty train him step by step


Carry out his learning in a progressive way. First, try a nap without a diaper. Before taking a nap and putting on his diaper, ask him if he wants to urinate or defecate in his potty. If the diaper is clean for two or three times in a row, you can try naps without a diaper.

If your cherub happens to have a dry diaper during his naps, gradually lengthen the amount of diaper-free time during the day. To make the transition easier, you can buy her diapers with elastic waistbands. That way, he can take them off and put them back on as he pleases, just like with real panties.

If for more than a week, he manages to use his potty well and is not subject to many accidents (because small accidents can always occur even when he becomes clean), you can use underpants or panties Fabric. During the day, stop diapering him. On the other hand, during the night, you must still put some on him, because if your toddler knows how to stay clean during the day, he still needs three to six months, or even more, to learn how to stay clean at night.

When your child has had dry nights for about a week, you can now try diaperless nights. To be prepared for any eventuality, you can put on a mattress pad to protect his mattress. Small incidents remain possible until he is five years old, this is completely normal.

Congratulate him every time he uses his potty correctly.


In order for your cherub to know how to use his potty, you must familiarize him with it. For this, you can put it near the toilet or in the bathroom. Also, explain clearly what it is for and how to use it. You can invite him to sit there even if he is dressed, or if not, he can put his stuffed animal in it.

With every effort on his part, show him that you are proud of it. This will motivate him to try harder. Even if he sometimes doesn't hold back his urges before getting on his potty, you can always encourage him to do better next time. Above all, avoid dramatizing the flight, rather do the opposite.

Be aware, however, that in order to congratulate him, you should not overdo it either. Kind words, little hugs, kisses are more than enough. You don't need to give him gifts, because even if you're happy with his progress, it's still a stage in his development that he must go through. He must become clean and will be, not to please his parents, but because he is growing up.

What if a child is not yet ready to potty train?


If your cherub is reluctant to potty train, be patient. Don't pressure him or show him your disappointment. Do not punish him if after your attempt, the small incidents multiply. Likewise, support him with understanding so that he doesn't develop feelings of shame.

If your child isn't ready to potty train yet, take a break. This can range from one to three months. Choose the delay depending on the situation. Once you take that break, stop talking about it, move on.

During toilet training, keep in mind that every child is unique, even siblings. The pace may differ from one child to another. While others manage to potty train before they are three years old, others may reach their four or five years and still wear a diaper at night. Whatever your baby's pace, always show him that you're supportive and that he can trust you.




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